My Love/Hate Relationship with Stilettos…

From a young age I have been intrigued by shoes…

I have loved them all.

From the first pair of ‘real heels’ I was allowed to buy – chunky black platform heels which made my delicate size 3 feet look like monsters and which my mum fondly refers to as my ‘orthopedic phase’ – that I loved with such gleeful abandon I wore the heel down to a wonky, ankle-breaking nub. To the 2 million (I’m not even sure this is an exaggeration) styles, shapes, colours and heights I perused for my wedding day – I ended up with a sweet light grey kitten heel which I could dance all night in… and I did!

But despite my avid love affair with everything from Converse to Clarks the one style I have never been able to master is the iconic Stiletto.

new legs

Now let me clarify – I love the stiletto. I could stare at them for hours (okay I’m definitely exaggerating there but I do look at them a lot…) and covet almost every one I have set my eyes on…. but I fear my love affair may be a little one sided.

Here’s my struggle;


  • It is like when they were created someone added in an intricate torture chamber specifically designed to cripple my exact foot size and shape in minutes… how?!
  • If I can manage to endure the tear inducing pain and actually walk I will fall over in approximately 4 steps…guaranteed
  • I am acutely aware of how bad I am at wearing them… equating in me feeling awkward and thus not looking good in them even if I could muster a good strut!


  • They make my size 3’s look even more teeny and adorable which can only ever be a good thing in my book
  • I never knew I even had calf muscles until I tried on a stiletto let alone that they make my stubby legs look at least half a foot longer (in my eyes anyway)
  • I just feel SEXY in them – in a way no funky trainer can compare

new shoe and trainer

new shoe wheel

So what do I do?! Do I persevere and train my tootsies to totter about? Do I park the dream in favour of my go to chunky heeled delights? Or do I just get more strategic and plan my stiletto stints when I know there will be proportionately more sitting than standing?!

Let me know what you think – thoughts, suggestions, tales of similar woes – I want to know about it!

In the meantime I’m off to browse through asos and weep….

P.s when I asked my husband to read and comment on this blog before I posted it he just sat back and said ‘I didn’t realise there was so much to say about shoes?!’…I’m taking that as a win


7 Comments Add yours

  1. toad says:

    I have this problem too. They’re gorgeous and seductive and yet there’s no way my size seven pads can handle my heavy yet curvy bulk. But they’re just so pretty! I got lucky this year and found a pair of heels that I love but are surprisingly comfy for black leather stripper heels…

    I love the way you write in your blog, using alliteration to bounce the ideas along. It’s a very attractive way to write, and a pleasure to read. More soon please!


    1. Good to hear it’s not just me! And thank you, I am very VERY new to this but I’m really enjoying it so far and am working on my next post as we speak!! πŸ™‚ x


  2. The biggest issue I have is that my feet are a 4.5 which means I generally have to spend loads of money on a boring pair of shoes that fit OR I have to wear them half a size to big and get some with a strap and because I’ve got short legs it isn’t the most flattering look…hmph!

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    1. I feel the pain! I’m a 3.5 so normally have to go for a 4 which inevitably means they slip off my feet!! It doesn’t help that I’m wobbly in the first place too haha πŸ˜€ x


  3. meinheels says:

    Well your hubby is in for a shock if he knew people could blog about nothing but shoes! Theres so much I could say about getting used to stilettos, however it comes down to understanding your feet and body first of all.

    Sizing is only a rough guide due to the lasts (moulds) used to manufacture the shoe and materials used. For example Rupert Sanderson produce three virtually identical point toe stilettos with 11cm heel, Elba, Calice, and Ives, but I vary between 39.5 and 41.5 across these three shoes. I only wear the Elba because neither Calice or Ives fit properly. Most manufacturers will do the same and my tip is to pick two or three different shoes which are similar, try them on and see how they fit.

    Also bear in mind softer leather such as suede, calf, kid and snake will have more give, and you could potentially gain up to one full shoe size after one or two wears.

    P.S. I love the way your blog looks, it’s wonderfully fun and funky and inspires ones imagination.


    1. Thanks for the comment livinginstilletos, really interesting about the different moulds I never knew that! I will have to bear that in mind the next time I try for some heeled beauties πŸ™‚ thanks very much for the compliment! πŸ˜€


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